Your wedding day, filled with magic, love, and laughter, is a significant milestone in your life. However, for many couples, the day seems to pass in a blur, leaving behind a few lingering ‘if only ‘ moments. Here are the eight biggest wedding day regrets that couples spoke out about.
If you’re a New York wedding couple planning your big day, take note of these common weeding day mistakes—so you can avoid them and fully enjoy your celebration!
No.1
Not eating food you paid a pretty penny for
You spent months choosing the perfect caterer. You carefully selected a menu that would wow your guests, and food tasting can be fun. You may have booked a venue like the iconic Plaza Hotel or the trendy Brooklyn The Foundry, known for its incredible menus. Sitting down for a meal might become an afterthought between greeting guests and dancing the night away. You end up starving and wondering why you paid so much for food you never tasted.
How to avoid it:
- Have a private dinner right after the ceremony before the reception starts. This will ensure you enjoy the delicious food you’ve chosen and give you a few precious minutes to bask in the joy of being newlyweds, away from the hustle and bustle of the reception.
- Schedule a time to eat into your wedding timeline. Most of your venue staff is good at feeding you first and ensuring you get what you need.
- Ask your planner or a friend to check on you now and then if you have had a bite.
No.2
Not following the timeline or having one at all
Weddings can turn chaotic. Without a timeline, things can spiral quickly.
Your ceremony may start late. Maybe there was a makeup delay, or the family didn’t arrive on time. Before you know it, the reception is halfway over, and you feel like you are constantly rushing somewhere.
How to avoid it:
- Work with a planner or your wedding photographer to create a solid schedule.
- Have a trusted friend keep things on track. I also keep track of time on my end.
- Factor in buffer time—things always take longer than expected! For example, if you plan for the ceremony to start at 4 pm, consider setting the official start time at 3:45 pm to account for any potential delays.
No.3
Not spending time with your guests.
Your wedding day is very much a social event. There is a reason you invited family and guests. It’s about the people who traveled, took time off work, and dressed up to celebrate with you. Remember, many couples regret not making the rounds to greet their guests or having a short conversation. It’s these small moments that make your guests feel appreciated and part of your special day.
How to avoid it:
- Cocktail hour is the best time to spend with your guests. You can also walk around the tables during dinner time. Just make sure you have your own dinner first.
- I keep formal photos organized and quick so you have more time to mingle.
- Consider the number of guests. Meaningful connections are always better.
No.4
Lack of time alone
People between the ceremony, photos, and reception constantly surround you. It’s easy to forget that this day is also about you and your partner. Many couples wish they had taken even five minutes to step away and soak it all in—just the two.
How to avoid it:
- Schedule a private moment after the ceremony. This might be the time to have your first meal as a newlywed.
- Sneak away for sunset photos or a private dance. I keep it light and fun. Most of all, I leave you alone right after so you can cherish the moment.
- Have a quiet breakfast together the following day before the chaos continues.
No.5
Wearing uncomfortable shoes
Those designer heels or brand-new dress shoes may look incredible, but you might regret them if they’re uncomfortable.
Probably any New York wedding photographer will tell you that a smart move is to have two or three pairs of shoes (one just for photos and the ceremony, a second for the session, and a third for the dancefloor)
How to avoid it if you want to stay with one pair:
- Break in your shoes before the big day.
- Choose your shoes according to the venue’s style. If it is a barn wedding with many unpaved areas, it will be wise and safer not to wear a hill all the time.
- Prioritize comfort over style—trust us, your feet will thank you.
No.6
Doing sparklers exit
Sparklers look magical in photos. But in reality? They’re often more trouble than they’re worth. Many couples find guests too drunk or distracted to do it properly. Some even get burned (yes, really). And in some places, sparklers aren’t even allowed. There are no Wedding day do-overs, so think of the kind of exit you want.
How to avoid it:
- Consider alternatives like glow sticks, bubbles, or confetti.
- If you want sparklers, ensure your Brooklyn or Catskills wedding venue allows them and have someone in charge of organizing it.
No.7
Not having an engagement session
You might think engagement photos are unnecessary, but skipping them is something that couples wish they hadn’t done. An engagement session helps you feel comfortable in front of the camera and lets you bond with your photographer before the wedding. Plus, you’ll have beautiful photos to use for save-the-dates, décor, or just as memories. Please don’t make it your biggest wedding day regret.
How to avoid it:
- Book an engagement session with your photographer.
- Use it as a practice run for your wedding day photos.
- Treat it like a fun date—you’ll be glad you did!
No.8
Not hiring a videographer.
This is a big one. While photos can capture the essence of your wedding and be a timeless reminder of your love, they cannot capture movement or sound like a video can.
Many brides’ biggest regrets after their weddings include not hiring a videographer to record their vows, first dance, and memorable moments. Statistics show that 94% of couples who didn’t hire a wedding videographer regret their decision afterward. While you might think you’ll remember everything, memories fade. A wedding video lets you relive the day forever, bringing back the joy and emotions of that special day.
How to avoid it:
- Hire a professional videographer. With similar coverage, it will capture the whole story of your day.
- Ask a friend to capture simple clips if a pro isn’t in your budget. Make sure to let me know if someone like that will be available. I’ll do what I can to warn them if something worth capturing happens.
- Find a New York wedding photographer who also offers video packages. They have experience working together, which has a lot of benefits. It also can save some money.
Final Thoughts
Your wedding is going to be perfect! Knowing these common wedding day regrets can help you plan a day you’ll cherish forever. So, eat the food, stick to the schedule, take time for yourselves, wear comfortable shoes, and skip the sparklers if they sound like a hassle. With these tips in mind, you’re well on your way to a perfect wedding day.
Eat the food, stick to the schedule, take time for yourselves, wear comfortable shoes, and skip the sparklers if they sound like a hassle.
And most importantly, soak in those unscripted moments with your partner. And most importantly, be present.
What about you? If you’re already married, what’s something you’d do differently? We’d love to hear about your experiences, so please share in the comments!
